Pregnancy for expectant dads and non-birthing partners

Two mothers stand close together, smiling at each other. The non-birthing partner holds the bump of the pregnant partner.

For dads and non-birthing partners, pregnancy can be an exciting time filled with joy and anticipation for the future, but it can also present significant challenges, such as changes in household roles, increased pressure managing work and family, and changes in relationships. Dads and non-birthing partners can also experience perinatal depression and anxiety (PNDA) before or after the birth of their baby.

Common Experiences for Dads and Non-birthing Partners

Feeling helpless when the birthing parent experiences physical discomfort or pain
Increased responsibility associated with being the sole income earner
Feeling unsure about their parenting skills and caring for a newborn
Feelings of loss from changes to their relationships or lifestyle
Feeling a strong need to protect their partner and the relationship
Concerns about the changing relationship with their partner
Worries about connecting or bonding with the baby after birth
Anxiety and overwhelm about increased responsibility
Worry about the birth, especially if there has been a prior birth trauma
Belief that they should be the “strong one”
Struggling to ask for support from family, friends or professionals

Dads and non-birth partners will have different experiences and support needs to those of the birthing parents and may be reluctant to seek help. However, PNDA can be experienced by any new or expectant parent, so knowing what to look for and where to access support is very important.

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LGBTQIA+ Families

Despite increasing recognition of diverse family types, LGBTQIA+ expectant and new parents often interact with care providers who have limited knowledge of LGBTIQA+ parenting experiences. Access to safe and appropriate care for trans, gender diverse or intersex parents is not always available, and this can impact the transition to parenthood.

Research indicates that LGBTQIA+ parents may experience higher levels of PNDA. This may arise from limited social support networks, exposure to discrimination, or challenges with conception and pregnancy. However, it is important to note that there is no evidence that the ideal gender mix of parents is a male and a female. Children need parents who are available and attuned to their needs.

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GFA is committed to providing inclusive care for ALL new and expectant parents.

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